Exactly what does being whole mean?
To me it means to have a clear understanding of who you are, mind, body and soul, it means understanding what it is you are willing to take and what you are not, it means owning who you are in your body, big, small, tall, fat, white, black or in between and more importantly, knowing whose you are.
For me, once you have identified how far you are willing to let people go in the way they treat you and you accept yourself for who you are, and you accept that there is a higher being, a God that is bigger than all of us and He controls the universe and everything in it, that to me is the definition of being whole.
I am a darker skinned black woman and for a long time in my life I never accepted that I was or could ever be beautiful, it took all my life to figure out that true beauty comes from within.
This revelation came about after the death of my mother, my sister and one of my dearest friends of thirty years, along with a lot of encouragement from my now 27 year old daughter.
Now that I have come to understand that I have one life to live and I do not get to say, “oops” and come back, I realize that I have to live my best life and that requires me loving myself for who I am and enjoying my life one day at a time.
My birthday was a few weeks ago and looking back over my life I realize that everything that I went through was to bring me to this place and in this place I am at peace with who I have become.